Who’s Speaking Into Your Life? Why Discernment Matters—Especially in the Neurodiverse Space
When you're walking through something as life-altering as navigating autism or ADHD—whether in yourself, your marriage, or your family—it’s only natural to search for insight, wisdom, and answers. You might pick up a book, start following a podcast, or connect with a coach or therapist.
And honestly? That’s a good thing. Seeking help is wise. We were never meant to do life alone.
But here’s a truth I’ve learned the hard way: not every voice is safe. And not every message is rooted in truth. Sometimes things that sound good can actually be harmful.
"The simple believe anything, but the prudent give thought to their steps."
— Proverbs 14:15 (NIV)
It’s easy to be drawn in by compelling language or emotional stories. But God calls us to be wise and discerning, especially in seasons when we’re vulnerable, confused, or hurting.
Why Faith Alignment Matters
If you're a Christian—or even someone who's exploring faith—it matters deeply who you allow to speak into your life. Their worldview will inevitably shape how they interpret your struggles, your identity, and your purpose. What they believe about God, humanity, suffering, and healing… it all pours into the guidance they offer.
And if you're not paying attention, you may unknowingly absorb things that sound good on the surface but are quietly pulling you away from the truth.
A Real-Life Example: Autism and “Spiritual Giftedness”
Let’s look at a popular example.
If you search “Autism and God” on Amazon, one of the first books you'll see is Autism and the God Connection by William Stillman. The title sounds promising—almost like a Christian perspective on autism and faith.
But take a closer look at the author’s background.
Stillman describes himself as a psychic medium and spiritual counselor. He’s written books on ghosts, demons, spirit communication, and even how to talk to dogs psychically. He’s a regular guest on paranormal shows and is associated with spiritualist communities. His understanding of “God” and “spiritual giftedness” is rooted in practices that scripture warns us to avoid.
Now let me be clear: this is not about attacking a person. It’s about protecting your soul.
"See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ."
— Colossians 2:8 (NIV)
Even when something appars spiritual or inspiring, it may be built on deception. That’s why discernment is not legalism—it’s spiritual survival.
Test Everything Against Scripture
If you’re a follower of Christ, you’re called to test and discern:
"Dear friends, do not believe everyone who claims to speak by the Spirit. You must test them to see if the spirit they have comes from God. For there are many false prophets in the world."
— 1 John 4:1 (NLT)
That includes the books you read, the podcasts you listen to, the therapists or coaches you hire, and even the groups you join online. Some teachings are spiritually dangerous—especially when you're in a vulnerable season and craving hope or connection.
Discernment Doesn’t Mean Isolation
I'm not saying we should only interact with Christians or avoid every resource that doesn't come from a seminary press. What I am saying is that discernment is vital.
We should seek out voices that are aligned with God’s Word—people whose lives bear the fruit of the Spirit, who walk humbly with Christ, and who don’t mix truth with mysticism, New Age beliefs, or emotional manipulation.
That’s one of the reasons I started Neurodiverse Coaching. Because when I was searching, I couldn’t find much help from people who truly understood the complexity of neurodiverse relationships and were anchored in biblical truth. I needed practical tools, yes—but I also needed someone who saw God’s design in neurodivergence, not just a diagnosis to “fix.”
You Don’t Have to Settle for Confusion
If you're in that place, I want you to know: you're not alone. And you don’t have to settle for shallow answers or confusing spirituality.
Real healing, real growth, and real transformation are possible—when you’re walking with the right voices beside you.
"If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."
— James 1:5 (NIV)
God doesn't expect you to figure it all out on your own. He’s ready and willing to give you the wisdom to navigate this journey with clarity and truth.
Questions to Ask Before Letting Someone Speak Into Your Life:
Does this person or author clearly follow Christ, or do they mix in other spiritual practices?
Do their teachings align with scripture—or are they more focused on self-empowerment, spiritual energy, or mysticism?
Do they lead you toward deeper dependency on God—or deeper dependency on them?
Are they bearing the fruit of humility, peace, and truth—or do they stir up confusion and emotional chaos?
God cares deeply about who you walk with. And in this space—where autism, ADHD, burnout, and relationships can already feel overwhelming—you need truth, not just talk.
Let’s Walk This Road Together
If you’re looking for guidance rooted in both truth and lived experience, I’d be honored to walk alongside you. I’m not just a coach—I’ve walked this road personally. I’m married to someone on the spectrum, have raised a neurodiverse child, and I’ve seen firsthand how God meets us in both the chaos and the quiet victories.
Schedule a free consultation today.